I love You – Really?
By: Joshua Balagot
“I LOVE YOU,” someone whispers. But what does he mean? What is he trying to say? What is love anyway? If someone asked you to define love, what would you say?
Today, the word love is tossed around loosely and far too casually. The phrase I love you can now mean “I have feelings for you”, “I admire you”, or “I want to go bed with you.” But is this the real love?
Love, real love in the context of marriage, is a rock-solid, unwavering, undying commitment to care for, enjoy, and build up your mate. Within the security of this total commitment, intimacy and vulnerability- the keys to excitement and fulfillment in marriage- have a chance to grow and flourish.
Modern society is confused about love. Motion pictures and TV productions often portray love as man meets woman, they are physically attracted to each other, they have sex, and they enjoy each other’s company for a time, then get tired of each other and split up, leaving behind two hurt people and often, some devastated children.
Sex without marriage and committed love makes vulnerable without the under girding support of trust. It feels good, but it is cheap because it is based on a fleeting feeling and not on a deep commitment. It destroys trust.
Real love says a different set of events. First comes loving commitment, then marriage, then sexual intimacy. Commitment and trust are the foundational stones to a wonderfully romantic, intimate, and fulfilling marriage. They give you the freedom to grow and to explore your relationship without the fear of rejection and abandonment. They are the ingredients of true love.
The perfect example of this true love is the love of God to us. Pure commitment, pure acceptance, doing and giving only the best things for the ones He loves.
So next time you say “I love you,” think first what you really meant. Assess yourself if you are ready for the commitment- a lifetime commitment.
By: Joshua Balagot
“I LOVE YOU,” someone whispers. But what does he mean? What is he trying to say? What is love anyway? If someone asked you to define love, what would you say?
Today, the word love is tossed around loosely and far too casually. The phrase I love you can now mean “I have feelings for you”, “I admire you”, or “I want to go bed with you.” But is this the real love?
Love, real love in the context of marriage, is a rock-solid, unwavering, undying commitment to care for, enjoy, and build up your mate. Within the security of this total commitment, intimacy and vulnerability- the keys to excitement and fulfillment in marriage- have a chance to grow and flourish.
Modern society is confused about love. Motion pictures and TV productions often portray love as man meets woman, they are physically attracted to each other, they have sex, and they enjoy each other’s company for a time, then get tired of each other and split up, leaving behind two hurt people and often, some devastated children.
Sex without marriage and committed love makes vulnerable without the under girding support of trust. It feels good, but it is cheap because it is based on a fleeting feeling and not on a deep commitment. It destroys trust.
Real love says a different set of events. First comes loving commitment, then marriage, then sexual intimacy. Commitment and trust are the foundational stones to a wonderfully romantic, intimate, and fulfilling marriage. They give you the freedom to grow and to explore your relationship without the fear of rejection and abandonment. They are the ingredients of true love.
The perfect example of this true love is the love of God to us. Pure commitment, pure acceptance, doing and giving only the best things for the ones He loves.
So next time you say “I love you,” think first what you really meant. Assess yourself if you are ready for the commitment- a lifetime commitment.
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